Wednesday, April 22, 2015

Earth Day 5 tips for saving the earth

When people think of earth day, they automatically go into the one day of the year that everyone should do something good for the planet, but this is not the case. Earth day is something you should celebrate everyday, and everywhere. Something that bothers me is when people say that because you live in a city that there are no trees, or flowers. On top of that I really don't like when people who have never been to Wilmington (my city) say that it is so dirty and that there is no beauty here. There most certainly is. This picture was taken 3 days ago as I was driving to the highway. I love these arches, simply beautiful!!! Take some time everyday to appreciate the planet you live on and take care of it each and everyday. It provides you light, energy, food, water, oxygen, and life in general. We should all be thankful! BUT HOW???

1. Going green does not have to be as radical as you think. As a personal trainer,I have realized that changes that last are made slowly over time and actually mean something to you, so find something that interests you and slowly start to make a change. For me nutrition is a big thing, so I like to think of growing food. I have always had a garden, but since moving to the city, I have no back yard, so I am super excited to move back to the suburbs so that I can replant one. Since not have a garden I have also taken to learning about foraging as well, and learning about wild foods. This has been my change within the past year, but the most important thing is to find something that is important to you and doing something that is meaningful.

2. Use Less Water! My best suggestion for this one is partner showers. these are not always the most convenient, because trying to shave your legs while someone else is walking around the shower with their eyes closed is a sure way to slice open your leg. But especially in the summer time when you just need a quick wash and rinse, this is the greatest way to help save some water plus it can help set the mood for the night or get you an early morning cardio session.

3. Buy Local! Not only will local businesses be more likely to have natural and organic products, but it can help boost the local economy and help your community while helping the earth. The food is more expensive at times, but farm eggs, don't need to be refrigerated, and small farms don't use as many pesticides as industrial farms. Plus if you have any questions normally the person running the cart, stand or market can tell you about each individual products birth, life, and now sale to you, from the methods to help it grow, to the food it was planted next to, and even how you can use it, and preserve it best. This is also a great way to aquatint yourself to a new area and make some new friends.

4. RECYCLE! I do not mean just plastic water bottles and old news papers, although these are super important to recycle, weather you are reusing them or sending them out for a company to reuse. here are some tips for you to reuse recyclables:
~newspaper: wrap children's gifts; use as a table cover for painting, tie-dyeing, egg coloring, and a number of other messy activities
~paper: scrap paper (writing lists or silly art from your kids)
~water bottles: I store my salad dressing in here, refill with water, cut in half (top 1/2 is a funnel, bottom 1/2 is a great place to plant and keep early seedlings)

5. Get outdoors. the more time you spend outside, the more you will find a connection with the outdoors and our earth. If you spend time outside you will pick up outdoor activities, such as foraging, gardening, birdwatching, kayaking, etc... When you spend time outside then you want the outdoors too look nice just as you would want your home (and maybe you will see that the earth itself is your home, not just your house) to look nice, and you may even find yourself picking up trash. I started with just gardening, then kayaking and hiking, and then outdoor yoga, then foraging, and now you literally cannot keep me inside. I want to be out in the sun all the time, bare feet in the dirt.

Thursday, April 9, 2015

Mommy Life... (The Real Teen Mom)

I have had many people ask me about my mom life. Yes I became a parent at 18. Yes I became a single parent at 19.  ... In all honesty though I do not think that this matters at all. Why would anyone assume that it is harder to be a parent depending on your age. "your not stable in life" oh yea, that's right I forgot that as soon as you turn 30 its like everything magically comes together, the greatest paying job the house, new car, and little picket fence house with a dog, and your dream partner. They all just appear on your thirtieth birthday and tell you go forth now and bear children, right? I know pliantly of families, and single parents that had children when they "weren't ready" and they figured it out same as I did. So Savannah was born 2010 and was premature, like way premie. We are talking 26 weeks premie, and I was deviated when I was told that she had to stay in the hospital and hat I could stay with her. I did not have a car at the time and so I had to ask people for a ride to go see her every night. Because she was being fed through a tube, I couldn't nurse her, and the only thing I could do was pump, and bring her bottles every night to fill her feeding tube with for the next day. It was a painful time in my life. December 23rd She came home from the hospital and she was my christmas present that year. Shortly after her coming home, her father and I split and so began our now 4 year custody battle.
For a while it was just Savannah and I. I was going to school to be a nurse and working evenings at the local YMCA until Savannah turned 1. Right around then is when her father decided he wanted back in and so after a few visits, he ran off with her, and I did not see her again for a

Two maternal and 1 paternal custody filings, one huge fight, and a couple thousand drinks later, a year goes by and my mother decides to help me out... oh yea she saw my daughter during this time, and told me I was too young and irresponsible to have had a child, so I didn't deserve her.   ... harsh words from mommy

So after I was able to get her
back, we finally went before a judge who granted me custody. I moved to my dads to help get away from any drama and tries to start my life over, but as a full time bartender, I had night shifts and never had a chance to spend time with Savannah who was normally up when I was sleeping. Back to the drawing board I went.  After some time and self evaluations and inner findings I decided that bar tending just was not for me and that I would try a new path. I had found yoga and had always been into fitness so why not make a career out of that? plus Savannah was really getting a kick out of it. She has gotten really good at it and has started attending her own classes along with her dance and swimming. I am just so glad that I was able to find something that we both like and can connect with and bond with, because I don't know many parents who have this connection with their kids.

Am I upset that I found myself though my child? No
Am I upset that I am not over worked in a job I hate that looks good to society? No
Am I ashamed of being a young mother? No
Am I ashamed of being a single mother? No

The only problem Ive had with being a young single mother is that no one believed I could do it.